"Coming out," however, has long been used in the gay community, but it first meant something different than it does now. "A gay man's coming out originally referred to his being formally presented to the largest collective manifestation of prewar gay society, the enormous drag balls that were patterned on the debutante and masquerade balls of the dominant culture and were regularly held in New York, Chicago, New Orleans, Baltimore, and other cities." The phrase "coming out" did not refer to coming out of hiding, but to joining into a society of peers. The phrase was borrowed from the world of debutante balls, where young women "came out" in being officially introduced to society.
“出柜”一词尽管一直由男同群体使用,但这个词的最初的意思是“某些与现在不同的”。“一个男同出柜最一开始指的是正式地在战前男同社会举办的最大的集会中出现。这些集会规模庞大,与主流社会举办的年轻上流女子聚会和化妆舞会相媲美,通常在纽约、芝加哥、新奥尔良、巴尔的摩以及其他城市举行。” “出柜”一词并不是指从躲藏的地方出来,而是加入到同伴之中。这个词从上流女子舞会里借用过来的,因为在这种场合中,年轻女子正式介绍到社交圈会时,都称作“出柜”。

According to George Chauncey's comprehensive history of modern gay culture, Gay New York , the closet metaphor was not used by gay people until the 1960s. Before then, it doesn't appear anywhere "in the records of the gay movement or in the novels, diaries, or letters of gay men and lesbians."

The gay debutante balls were a matter of public record and often covered in the newspaper, so "coming out" within gay society often meant revealing your sexual orientation in the wider society as well, but the phrase didn't necessarily carry the implication that if you hadn't yet come out, you were keeping it a secret. There were other metaphors for the act of hiding or revealing homosexuality. Gay people could "wear a mask" or "take off the mask." A man could "wear his hair up" or "let his hair down," or "drop hairpins" that would only be recognized by other gay men.

It is unclear exactly when gay people started using the closet metaphor, but "it may have been used initially because many men who remained 'covert' thought of their homosexuality as a sort of 'skeleton in the closet.'" It may also have come from outsiders who viewed it that way. It seems that "coming out of the closet" was born as a mixture of two metaphors: a debutante proudly stepping into the arms of a community and a shocking secret being kept in hiding. Now the community is the wider community, and the secret is no longer shocking."Coming out" is a useful phrase, but it need not imply a closet.
男同使用“出柜”一词作隐喻的确切时间并清楚,不过“它最初开始使用时,是因为很多男士对他们的同性恋身份仍然保持着‘隐密'思想,认为他们这像是’见不得光的秘密'。”它也可能是外面的人这样想像的。看起来“出柜”(come out of the closet)的出现是两个隐喻词的汇合:公开参加同一群体的社交活动,以及一个隐藏着的惊人秘密。现在的社交群体更加宽泛,秘密已不再让人惊奇了。“出柜”是一个有用的说法,不过并不暗指隐秘

In other words, he "came out of the closet." This expression for revealing one's homosexuality may seem natural. Being in the closet implies hiding from the outside world, and the act of coming out of it implies the will to stop hiding. But though the closet has long been a metaphor for privacy or secrecy, its use with reference to homosexuality is relatively recent.